If you were to look up on Google or in any standard English dictionary, what an ‘alpha male’ means, you would probably be astounded by the facts and features of an alpha male. (A briefly put explanation http://chadhowsefitness.com/2012/11/25-characteristics-of-an-alpha-male )
This commentary here isn’t about alpha males. It’s about men who think they are alphas but actually are only looking forward to attract and win over the opposite sex by using their charms. Their nonchalant attitude makes them approachable and they’re sarcastically sober enough, until you talk to them in their tone. Recently, a friend shared an incident with me which left me wondering why exactly this pseudo alpha male attitude is toxic to the society.
Her friend walked past her room and knocked on her door on his way out. Now this isn’t anything wrong to do, right? But the girl was inside the room. She hurriedly opened the door to answer the knock and was dumbfounded. Remember when as kids we used to ring bells and run away, something of the sort had happened here too, just that she saw him walk past. Now I am just eager to know what his purpose here was. Did he want sugar or water like typical Indian soap drama? Or did he have an emergency and needed help?
Dear such pseudo alpha men, this is for you.
You need to realize that everyone loves their personal space and your insignificant interruptions are not welcome at all. You do not realize that someone might not be interested in talking to you all the time. Were you aware if she is in the room? Was there an unforeseen situation? Did you care enough to apologize? Did you even realize that ‘okay I might have made a mistake there’? If the answer is no then you should know that you need to stop. You need to go back and use that mirror for more than physical admirations. Look into yourself as you see your reflection.
Maybe the girl will not answer her door at the first knock now. She won’t be comfortable in talking to you anymore. She will not come up to you for help even if she is in a problem inside her room. The only recurring thought in her mind will be ‘why?’ There is such a fine line between friendliness and intruding the personal space that I can already hear half of the readers saying, ‘so what’?
If you think people look up to you, then also learn to live up to them. Be inspirational and not reprobate. It’s always evident when you go an extra step ahead, to make a move that you feel will bring you closer to the opposite gender. Maybe that worked for you in high school. But as you grow adults you realise, it only makes the other person over-conscious and uncomfortable. When someone reverts back to you in a way by which you get uncomfortable, you will walk away or bring in unnecessary details, irrelevant to the discussion. Don’t let your ego get hurt so easily that you fail to realise your own mistakes. Stop showing other men down who genuinely care for women and maybe are true alpha men- who more than being responsible are humble and know the value of their words and actions.
Do not argue here about women who go cross lines for your attention, I am not approving of them either, because like every other time, you will not accept your fault and bring in other tangential issues. Grow up. Learn. And amend yourself.